How do you deal with the emotions when being asked to do something you don’t want to do by a Dom/ Disciplinarian? For me those emotions were not so positive or submissive. I made the decision to consent to a spanking and I mentally prepared myself for the confession I knew I had to make and vowed to be good about all that.. But for reasons I think I understand now I was required to talk about things beyond just confessing to things I didn’t even like thinking about and I had to do things I didn’t want to do. I was scared, frustrated, a little defiant and I actually felt bad that I let all that show.

It would wound depend on a lot of different factors. For instant, whether the relationship is truly a submissive one, or merely a disciplinary one. Or, whether you were upset and angry because you just didn't *want* to, or whether you were truly being pushed further than you needed to be and it was scary (either physically or emotionally). It's really hard to tell anyone, though, how they should *deal* with their own feelings.

Whether the outside world judges a particular feeling "right" or "wrong," it belongs to the person having it and they're having it for a reason specific to themselves. They have every right to feel the way they do . . . . . but their expression of that feeling may or may not be condoned.

insightful as always keagan thanks. i do tend to be guarded with my feelings/emotions but you make a goodpoint feelings are neither right /wrong and well the things i've read on how to 'deal' with emotions or i should feel won't always apply. i think i was having a weird moment when i asked the question

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